Tomorrow is Valentine’s Day, an event that usually passes without a whole lot of notice in the PoP household. They go something like this:
Mr PoP: Happy Valentine’s Day, baby!
Mrs PoP: Aww, thanks. Right back at ya! Want to stop and get yourself fancy chocolates from [the fancy chocolate shop near your office] on the way home from work?
Mr PoP: Nah. There’s always a line out the door on Valentine’s Day!
I’m pretty sure the only time one of us has ever gotten the other a gift or tried to “celebrate” this holiday was in the first couple of months we were dating. As a single RA (definitely the best job for college students) the previous semester, I had happily volunteered to work Valentine’s Day weekend, which kept me on duty until 2 in the morning. It wasn’t that big of a deal, and worked out well when Mr PoP went out for his friend’s birthday while I worked. When he came back to the dorm that night, he brought me a single rose he bought at the gas station on the way home.
The thought was very sweet and I told him so, but I also told him he never had to get me anything for Valentine’s day ever again. To which he responded that I was the best girlfriend ever. =)
But the truth is, sometimes it feels like Valentine’s Day is every week with Mr PoP and it’s amazing! I am so spoiled by the all of the little and big things he is constantly doing to make my life easier and happier.
- Little thing: Engulfing me in a bear hug every time I ask for it to help me feel safe (one of my weird aspie tendencies). Every time. Even multiple times in a row if one isn’t enough. He is my human version of the thundershirt.
- Not-So-Little thing: Meeting me at the finish line of every road race over 10K that I’ve ever completed (going by the number of medals hanging in my closet he’s done this many times) to be my chauffeur when I’m pooped!
- Big thing: Fixing things that break around the house, and not blaming me even when it’s my fault. Most recently fixing the dryer that broke (burned coil – not my fault!) when he was out of town for a work trip. A fix he completed within 14 hours of returning home despite not arriving at the airport until midnight!
- Giant thing: Building me a freaking new kitchen! So this one is going to take a while to finish and I’ll help more when the work involves fewer nailguns, but wanting to do this for me and encouraging me at every step to make sure we’re getting the kitchen of my dreams (his dreams don’t involve kitchens usually) is the biggest gift from him that I could have ever asked for and he’s working at it every weekend.
And this is just stuff that happened within the last week or so! There’s a reason I’m constantly telling him he’s the best husband ever – because it’s my truth.
So, baby, if there’s not a line at [the fancy chocolate shop near your office], want to stop and buy yourself some fancy chocolates on the way home? If they come close to spoiling you the way you spoil me, it’s the least I can do. (Seriously, the least – since I’m not gonna bike ~50 miles to get them when you can stop on your way home.) But I love you!!!
How do you spoil your partner and make Valentine’s Day a regular occurrence in your relationship?