Please welcome back Mama PoP with the first Happy Friday post of 2014.
“They’re just pushing your buttons.” At least, that’s what we tell ourselves when someone is teasing or deliberately irritating in order to get a reaction. So a “button”, in this context, refers to those pet peeves or irritants that are generally known to our family and friends. We all have them, of course.
Someone who wanted to push my buttons might describe education as an utter waste of time. Given the right circumstances, I would probably engage in a heated debate about that kind of statement, thus providing some entertainment for the
But, What About Happiness Buttons?
A happiness button is simply something that makes you happy. Here I’m not talking about the generic “Happiness Button” discussed by Scott Adams (creator of Dilbert). Real happiness buttons are specific to each person.
Have you ever stopped to think about exactly who or what makes you happy?
As I write this, my cat is lying tummy-up on my lap, purring his little heart out and occasionally reaching up to gently pat my face with his paws. Clearly, he is a past master at recognizing a happiness button and pushing it! We all have lots of happiness buttons, but after doing some limited “research” I have determined that there is a lack of knowledge concerning what happiness buttons are and how to activate them.
Papa PoP gets up early every morning and delivers a cup of hot tea to me while I am in bed and waking slowly. He’s done this for 37+ years because he knows that it makes me happy. Mr. PoP called me this morning and invited me out for coffee – just the two of us – this is obviously something that would warm any mother’s heart. My sister called earlier today just to say “Hi.” I could go on and on with all of the things that happen in a day to push my happiness buttons, and I am so grateful for all of them.
But What About Making Other People Happy?
My “research” demonstrated that I can name lots of things that people do for me that really make me happy, but I wasn’t as good at putting my finger on the specific things that I can do to push other people’s happiness buttons. I started asking everyone for ideas and it was quite enlightening!
For one person, it was an email joke that showed that I was thinking of her. For someone else, it was the cookies that I baked and shared. Other friends enjoyed a special shopping trip that I suggested. Papa Pop values the help I always give him when he has computer problems.
One of the major tenants of happiness research is that we become happier when we make others happy. By deliberately identifying and pushing the happiness buttons of those with whom we interact, we can not only make them happy but enhance our own happiness, too. Your action research (should you decide to take the challenge) is to discover the happiness buttons in the people you love and make sure that you push them frequently. You will be happier for it!
Note from Mrs PoP – Kitty PoP has found my happiness/his food button can be reached by sitting behind me on the couch, purring in my ear and gently massaging my shoulder. It’s mutually beneficial, happiness-wise. I get my cuddle, and – if mealtime is near – Kitty PoP gets a scoop of kibble.
What happiness buttons have you found that you regularly push in others? Or that they push in you?