This weekend I did something that I should have done a long time ago. I ended a relationship that for a while now felt like it was taking more out of me than I was getting from the relationship. I broke up… with my yoga instructor.
What’s The History?
I call myself a casual yogi, having been practicing fairly regularly since starting with some community yoga classes that were offered free at a park across the street from my old office in 2007. I find it’s a great way to offset all the running I do.
But when I moved to be in the same city as Mr PoP in 2008, I started going to a gym owned by a friend and I came to really like the yoga instructor that taught a few classes there every week.
When we lived 10 minutes away from the gym, I would go to yoga once or twice per week and it was great. But then we moved 30 minutes away, and making it once per week was the most I could ever do.
So How Much Did Yoga Cost?
The membership deal I had at that gym wasn’t expensive and when we lived nearby, $20/month was a steal. But now… not so much. If I made it every week, then the actual costs for an average month are:
- Membership: $20/month
- Gas: $4/visit, $16/month
- Subway*: $4/egg white flatbread after each class, $16/month
- Time: Drive + 90 minute Class + Subway with instructor + Drive = almost 4 hours. A sizable time committment every Saturday morning.
So the actual monthly costs weren’t $20. They were ~$50 and a LOT of time.
I’ve Been Cheating With Another Yoga Instructor
About 18 months ago, a proper yoga studio opened up about 3 miles from our house. It’s kindof hidden away and I forgot it was there until a friend and I went by the area and I picked up a brochure a couple of months ago. Oh my gosh – there are so many different classes at so many different levels. (One of the bad things about the “all levels” class that I had been going to is that it’s easy to slack off if you’re not feeling it.)
Anyhow, I’ve paid the drop-in fee a few times when I didn’t want to devote 4 hours of my Saturday to driving and yoga and discovered that I love the place.
- I can bike there easily with my mat; it takes about 15 minutes on nice sidewalks.
- You can reserve a spot online, so you don’t have to get there early to make sure you get a spot. (You had to get to the other gym about 15 minutes early to make sure you have a spot.)
- Lots of different types of yoga. Not just the power yoga that I like most of the time, but specialty classes and workshops for lots of different purposes. There are also many different times that classes are offered, so I’m not bound to the same time and schedule every single week.
If I wanted to go nuts, I’m sure I could spend a small fortune there. But if I just want to go to 1 class per week, which is pretty good for me for now, I can buy a pass ($300 upfront) that brings the cost down to $10/class. Biking there won’t add any transit costs, and I probably won’t be eating at Subway, so I’ll probably end up spending $40 per month to go once a week. Simiilar to the old gym, actually. But I’ll reclaim about 2 hours from the time that going to yoga used to take and I feel like the classes there will help me grow more in my practice.
“It’s Not You, It’s Me”
Yoga (at least for me) is such a personal thing – there’s a level of trust you develop with a familiar instructor to know when and how far they can push you – that the breakup wasn’t easy. And hey, I haven’t really broken up with anyone since 2003, so it’s not like I’ve had a lot of practice recently anyhow.
Breaking up with my yoga instructor probably would have been easier if it had been just about the money. But I think he understood and didn’t take it personally. I still felt bad, though.
Have you had to break up with a trusted service provider? A doctor, a dentist, or a fitness instructor? Was it hard?
* I realize an egg-white sandwich with your yoga instructor isn’t mandatory, but giving the instructor a ride home and having an egg white sandwich at Subway somehow got to feel like a mandatory part of going to yoga over the last 3-4 years.